Education & Celebration

NVC Conflict Coaching

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INTRODUCTION

Learning is what we do to negotiate this thing we call life. Some ways to learn are better than others. We are all in a learning cycles of some kind from moment to moment, just not necessarily learning in ways that will truly benefits us. All too often we learn how to avoid blame and punishment or we reinforce the learning that we took on as a child when we had much less awareness and fewer resources to draw upon than we do now. In such a cases we are not being drawn forward by what we would like to create in the world. The model offered here helps us reorient towards what will support us to thrive.

This model is based on a learning cycle that incorporates key skills and distinctions of NVC. Using it, we cycle through stages of preparing, doing, learning, and then preparing again. Within each stage there are a number of steps.

A Growing NVC Community in South Korea

NVC Korea

In 2003, when NVC was just beginning in South Korea, certified trainer Katherine Singer would meet with people in coffee shops or each others' homes and offices. Since then we have been enjoying tremendous interest in NVC and strong growth as an NVC community here in Korea. Out of this growth, and with a passion for sharing NVC with wider groups on a steady basis, Katherine founded the Korean Center for Nonviolent Communication in 2006, with the help and support of those who wished to have a place to gather for learning and sharing NVC. 

Our center is a two story home with a full-basement and garage converted into offices and seminar rooms, providing a cozy and friendly environment for study and reflection. We support our regional community by making NVC educational materials available, coordinating practice groups, and offering trainings in Korean and in English. We offer trainings at our center where we can accommodate up to as many as 40 people at any one time. We also go out to offer customized programs for those who work for the public sector, government agencies, schools, and corporations, such as Sam Sung Electronics, and NGO groups. 

 

By Seunghee Han, Korean Center for Nonviolent Communication, www.krnvc.org 

 

Social Change

Woman’s Project in Nagpur, India

Background

We started this project because of the high rate of domestic violence that is still happening to women in India. According to the 2002 study, 45 percent of Indian women are slapped, kicked or beaten by their husbands. India also had the highest rate of violence during pregnancy. Of the women reporting violence, 50 percent were kicked, beaten or hit when pregnant. About 74.8 percent of the women who reported violence have attempted to commit suicide.
Domestic violence experts say the problem in India stems from a cultural bias against women who challenge their husband's right to control their behavior. Women who do this -- even by asking for household money or stepping out of the house without their permission -- are seen as punishable. This process leads men to believe their notion of masculinity and manhood is reflected to the degree to which they control their wives.

Why belong to an international NVC network?

Eva & Anne

What has it been like for your to work on building an international network?
Anne: “My experience so far has been mainly in the French-speaking world. I celebrate the quality of relationship we have been able to create among us, even though there have been challenges, tensions and fears. My dream is to see us slowly but surely live the kind of connections we long for, where we show solidarity, compassion and
trust to one another and where teams exchange support, inspiration and learning..."
Eva: “I feel incredibly excited about the fun, connection, depth, challenge, and learning I have experienced traveling around the world offering NVC in at least 30 different countries. Even if it takes time, energy and causes a lot of problems, I see many advantages to international NVC connections. I so much would like to have more and more people aware of this!"